Celebrity Matchmaker Alessandra Conti Shares Why Successful Singles Are Leaving Dating Apps

By: Nina S. , Executive Assistant at Matchmakers In The City

Published July 3, 2026 at 3:00 PM PT

Updated July 3, 2026 at 11:00 AM PT

Beverly Hills, California

Successful singles are rethinking dating apps, and according to Matchmakers In The City's Celebrity Matchmaker Alessandra Conti, the shift is about more than swipe fatigue. It is about privacy, intentionality, emotional exhaustion, and a growing desire for real human curation in an increasingly automated dating world.

Conti, co-founder of the Beverly Hills-based matchmaking firm Matchmakers In The City, says her team is seeing more successful professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, creatives, and high-caliber singles step away from dating apps in favor of a more private and intentional approach to finding love.

“Successful singles are tired of feeling like they are on display,” says Conti. “For many people, dating apps have started to feel less romantic and more like a second job. They are swiping, messaging, filtering, fact-checking, and trying to figure out who is actually serious. At a certain point, people want dating to feel elevated again.”

Dating App Burnout Is Becoming a Major Modern Dating Issue

Dating app fatigue has moved from private frustration to a mainstream dating trend. Recent surveys and studies have pointed to rising emotional exhaustion among app users, especially younger daters and women. Singles are increasingly describing the process as repetitive, overwhelming, and emotionally draining.

Conti says this tracks with what she hears from clients.

“A lot of successful singles come to us after years on the apps,” she says. “They are accomplished, attractive, emotionally available, and genuinely ready for a relationship, but they feel burned out by the volume. Too many options can start to feel like no options at all.”

For many high-achieving singles, the issue is also time. Between careers, travel, family, fitness, social lives, and personal goals, dating apps can become another digital task competing for attention.

“Successful singles are strategic with everything else in their lives,” Conti says. “They have financial advisors, trainers, stylists, therapists, assistants, and teams around them professionally. It makes sense that they would want a more thoughtful strategy for their love life too.”

Privacy Has Become a Dating Luxury

One of the biggest reasons successful singles are leaving dating apps is privacy.

Dating apps often require users to make themselves publicly searchable to strangers in their city, industry, social circle, or professional network. For people with visible careers, public profiles, or high-net-worth lifestyles, that level of exposure can feel uncomfortable.

“Privacy is becoming one of the greatest luxuries in modern dating,” says Conti. “A successful woman does not always want her photos, age, location, and relationship status available to anyone who downloads an app. A successful man may feel the same way. The more elevated someone’s life becomes, the more careful they often become about access.”

This is especially true for singles in cities like Los Angeles, Beverly Hills, New York, Miami, Dallas, and other high-profile dating markets where personal and professional circles frequently overlap.

Conti says matchmaking offers a more discreet alternative.

“Matchmaking allows people to be seen by the right people, rather than searchable by everyone,” she says.

AI Dating Tools Are Creating a New Kind of Burnout

As dating apps introduce more AI tools, from profile assistance to automated message suggestions, many singles are asking a new question: who am I actually talking to?

Artificial intelligence may help users write stronger bios, choose better photos, or start conversations, but Conti says it can also make dating feel less authentic.

“AI can be useful as a tool, but romance still requires real human energy,” says Conti. “Singles are already tired of wondering if someone is sincere. Now they are also wondering if the message they received was written by a person, a prompt, or a chatbot.”

This new layer of uncertainty is contributing to what Conti calls “AI dating burnout.”

“Dating already requires vulnerability,” she explains. “When people feel like they are interacting with overly polished profiles, scripted messages, and algorithm-driven behavior, it can make the entire process feel less human.”

For successful singles who value emotional intelligence, authenticity, and chemistry, this can be a dealbreaker.

“Chemistry cannot be outsourced to AI,” says Conti. “A relationship is built through presence, timing, values, communication, attraction, and real-life consistency. Technology can assist, but it cannot replace discernment.”

Successful Singles Want Curation, Not Endless Access

Conti believes the future of dating for serious, successful singles is moving away from endless access and toward thoughtful curation.

“The old dating app promise was that more people meant more possibilities,” she says. “What many singles are realizing is that more people can also mean more noise.”

Matchmaking, she explains, is designed to reduce that noise.

Rather than asking clients to scroll through hundreds of profiles, a matchmaker looks for alignment in lifestyle, values, personality, relationship goals, timing, attraction, and long-term compatibility. For many clients, the human element is the entire point.

“An algorithm may notice that two people like the same restaurant or went to similar schools,” says Conti. “A matchmaker is looking at energy, readiness, emotional patterns, communication style, and whether two people actually make sense in real life.”

That human judgment, she says, matters more than ever.

Dating Apps Are Not Disappearing, But Singles Are Becoming More Selective

Conti does not believe dating apps are going away. In fact, she says they can still be useful for some people, especially casual daters or singles who enjoy the process.

But for successful singles who are looking for a serious relationship, she believes the app-first era is changing.

“Dating apps created access,” says Conti. “Now people are craving discernment.”

This is particularly true for singles who are marriage-minded, family-minded, relationship-oriented, or simply tired of low-effort dating behavior.

“Many successful singles are realizing that their dating life deserves the same level of intention as the rest of their life,” she says. “They do not want to feel like they are auditioning for love on a public platform. They want to be introduced with care.”

The Return of Old-School Matchmaking

Matchmakers In The City has built its brand on what Conti calls “old-school matchmaking for modern singles.” The company works with clients who want a more personal, private, and curated dating experience.

For Conti, the renewed interest in matchmaking is less about nostalgia and more about the future of dating.

“People want to feel human again,” she says. “They want real conversations, real introductions, real accountability, and real effort. That is why matchmaking is having such a moment.”

As dating apps continue to evolve with AI, algorithms, and new paid features, Conti believes successful singles will continue looking for alternatives that feel more personal and more protected.

“The most successful singles are often the most intentional,” she says. “They know their time is valuable. They know their privacy matters. And they are ready to meet someone in a way that reflects the life they have built.”

For singles experiencing app burnout, Conti’s advice is simple: step back, reassess the strategy, and choose a dating approach that supports the relationship you actually want.

“Love should never feel like a numbers game,” says Conti. “The right introduction can change everything.”

About the Author: Nina is the Executive Assistant of Matchmakers In The City, a Beverly Hills-based matchmaking firm known for its private, curated approach to modern dating. The Matchmakers at Matchmakers In The City have appeared as dating and relationship expert across national media and speak frequently on dating trends, matchmaking, app burnout, and the future of relationships.

Publisher: Matchmakers In The City is a Beverly Hills-based matchmaking company founded by sisters and Celebrity Matchmakers, Alessandra Conti and Cristina Conti Pineda.